Part 12. Gather Your Broken Pieces
A series about starting over gently, honestly, and without apology
Healing is very important; however, you can’t heal honestly if you fail to gather your broken pieces. As mentioned earlier in this series, it’s important to sit with your broken pieces and name them. Also, reckoning is a vital phase of your healing process, but it doesn’t end there. After making the decision to heal honestly, you must take your time to gather your broken pieces.
To be honest with you, this is not a funny moment, it can be very painful because you’re picking up tiny pieces of yourself; cherished parts of your life that went through severe situations that eventually tore them apart. This can be tough and very painful. Please, go through the process, you’ll be fine. Pain often resides on the path of honest healing. It’s okay to cry, if you need to. I want you to know that crying doesn’t decrease your worth, it only strengthens the fact that you’re human, not a robot.
It's time to rebuild, but before you can do that, you must gather. There’s no need to rush, you don’t have to be forceful. All you have to do is gather at your pace. Remember, the goal is to heal honestly.
In gathering your broken pieces, you don’t have to pick up everything all at once. It’s okay to go one at a time. This is a tender work of restoration, but you must trust your identity, trust your faith, and trust your voice. You must be intentional.
Some pieces will feel very sharp, they may steer up a lot of memories and emotions, but you must pick them anyway. Pick them up and move on to the next.
Some pieces will feel lost, as though they never existed and don’t want to exist, but you know what? Pick them up and move on to the next.
Some pieces will feel too small to matter. Don’t ignore them because big things are often birthed by small things. They belong to you, pick them up and move on to the next.
Every piece, no matter how important or insignificant it may appear to be, they are all part of your story. Therefore, they deserve to be held, not anyhow, but with care.
I want you to know that healing honestly is not about becoming who you were, it’s about becoming someone better, someone new. It’s all about becoming someone who passed through fire and came out refined. It wasn’t just a walk, it was a battle with heat, a silent scream, a stride through suffering that shaped something sacred. The fire made you burn, but you were not burnt. The fire only refined what was already gold. You came out forged. I want you to see things from that perspective. You are someone who shattered, but amid your broken pieces, you choose to rebuild. Bravo!
Now, let’s take a little pause and let me quickly chip this in: Should every broken piece be picked up? Kindly take a moment to ruminate on that question. I’ll be answering it in the next part of this series. It’s time to hit the resume button, although we’ll be ending this part soon.
Irrespective of what you went through, irrespective of whatever you did or was done to you, I want you to know that you are precious, you are unique, and you deserve to rebuild. Therefore, brace up and gather your broken pieces.
Remember, JS Havilah cares about you, yes, you!
Part 13 of THE ART OF QUIET COMEBACKS is quietly on its way.
Come back for every installment.
Come back to remember you are not alone.
Come back, not to catch up, but to catch your breath.
Still becoming,
JS Havilah
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