Part 3. The Breaking Point We Don’t Talk About
A series about starting over gently, honestly, and without apology
I don’t remember the weather that day. I only remember the weight.
We are all strong, strength lives in all of us. However, the life of every strong person has moments of weariness, moments when weights seem overwhelming. Times when it feels as though the universe is digging its foundation deep within your shoulders. Times when your strength seem to fade. Moments when your resilience seem to be in a combat with a whole lot of weaknesses plunging their claws deep into it. Moments when strength suffers internal bleeding yet bleeding out. Those are breaking points; however, they don’t mean you’re devoid of strength.
The presence of an overwhelming weight does not mean you lack strength; it’s in you and only needs something to spark it, something to crystalize it from the cloudy weight that seems to submerge it. The fact that it feels as though you’re losing strength does not mean you’re losing strength, your strength is just being overwhelmed, and that’s a breaking point.
Many stay silent about their breaking points, fearing the world will mistake vulnerability for weakness. Society often perceives them as a sign of weakness. Too often, the world equates struggle with weakness. Some people ignore their breaking points because they feel ignoring it will make it vanish. These and more are reasons people remain in that state until they eventually break.
Breaking point is a period of intense pressure where someone is at the verge of breaking, they haven’t snapped yet, but they’re dangerously close to it. Something begins to quietly whisper to them: Maybe this isn’t worth it anymore.
A bend in a road is not the end of the road, all you need to do is make the required turn with the road, then you’ll be grateful for never giving up.
Life happens; pressure comes and goes. Don’t give up without giving the pressure a chance to leave, and sometimes, you may have to give it several chances, as much as it is needed. At the end, you’ll discover all those chances were worth it.
JS Havilah says, “Don’t break, don’t snap, don't give up. Your strength is in there, intact!”
In Part 4 of The Art of Quiet Comebacks, I’ll be discussing the right environment and what happens after a breaking point.
Come back for every installment.
Come back to remember you’re not alone.
Come back, not to catch up, but to catch your breath.
Still becoming,
JS Havilah
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