Many hearts have crashed severally, while millions are currently crashing because of this four-letter word: LOVE. Heartbreak have become a norm in our society as it appears to have come to stay. Many are drowning in the pit of agony, deception, and betrayal, because of this same word: LOVE. They have been submerged in pain, stabbed with a dagger in their hearts and left to bleed. Many hearts have crashed so hard against their ribs that it echoed in their brains, all because of LOVE. Some people call them "Victims of Love." Is that the truth?
Love is good, love is fun, and love is pleasurable. Love births great things, but when not properly handled, a lover can become a victim.
As pleasurable as love is, it has been misused and abused by many. Many victims have crawled to recovery while the scar remained permanent, but many never recovered. Was love meant to be a source of pain and distress? Is it right to call them victims of love?
The fact that many have abused love does not rule out this fact; love is good and serves as a stream of joy. The fact that someone had it rough does not mean every other person should follow suit. The fact that Mr. A abused and misused your love does not mean Mr. B will do same. These victims are not victims because they gave love a chance, they are victims because their love was abused or misused.
Whoever finds himself/herself in this situation, please plod out of the heartbreak and give love another chance. Just as our faces differ, the same way our journey to recovery may differ. However, some recoveries are not recoveries, they are just heartbreaks covered with makeup, and no matter the layers of makeup, the cracks are not mended, neither does the pain completely vanish. Complete healing is possible, please, don't settle for less.
In my own opinion, if you find yourself in this situation, you are not a victim of love. Truth be told, your love got abused, but love is not the problem, rather, the problem can be the one you sold your love to, it could also be a negative response to trials and challenges of life. Perhaps you confused lust for love.
Concluding love is not worth it is concluding never to experience true love. Give love another chance but ensure you don't confuse lust for love. Life is too short not to experience true love.
With love, from JS Havilah.
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